Hey all! This one’s geared towards the newer dads out there with twins or those experienced dads that have gone through this moment and care to share their insights in our open forum.
Charity and I were thinking about some of our first experiences with twins the other day. My first day alone with our girls came up. Remembering back, the level of apprehension I felt was somewhere between significantly stressed and borderline panic! Got a fairly stressful job at times, but nothing compared to the anxiety felt when reality hit that I would be on my own. Don’t get me wrong, the idea of having our first daddy- daughters’ day was pretty awesome! But the little voice in my head was also saying, “What!? You mean it’s just going to be me here with both of them!? That can’t be right!”
Here are a few thoughts or ideas that might help alleviate that stress. For starters, organize as much of your day with them as possible. Plan it out ahead, before they wake up. That way, you don’t have to make decisions on the fly- less stress that way. Charity and I have the girls on a schedule. You almost have to be in order to survive when it comes to being parents of twins because you’re twice as busy. Best advice possible… don’t try to reinvent the wheel. Stick to their normal routine- feeding times, nap times, play times, the specific processes for feeding and nap times that you and your wife have set up, etc. Our girls seem to function better with a routine. While solo on one occasion, I made the mistake of letting the girls have extra play time, believing I was being a good dad for doing so. On another occasion, I didn’t put them to bed at their regular time and we stayed up spending extra daddy- daughter time. Needless to say, neither worked out well for me. All I got for my brilliant ideas were grouchy kids and more gray hair. So deviate from the norm at your own peril!
That being said, things are gonna happen. Don’t sweat the small stuff. My first day solo I’m changing diapers (yes plural…that’ll happen). It’s literally an hour after Char left us alone! Bella gets loose during the change and crawls off at high speed dropping little poop bomblets all the way out the door and into the hallway. My first thought, “You gotta be kidding me!” My second thought, “I’m not telling Char because that’s never happened to her and I’ll look like an idiot!” After taking a breath (and getting the carpet cleaner), I laughed it off. Believe me, things are just gonna happen.
I’ll get back with you in a few with some other useful tricks and lessons learned. For now, congrats on being the proud papa of twins, or if yours are older, congrats on making it this far! Talk to you soon, Mike